By: Haley Lewis
Hello, hello my headbandits!
I hope you all are having a lovely 4th of July. Mine didn’t really go as planned. Maybe you had better luck today.
Our plans crumbled between our hands literally the very last minute. A bit of a story, ha. I was feeling pretty disappointed initially, but oh well, such is 2020! We, meaning myself, my mom, and brother, still had a yummy indoor bbq consisting of cheeseburgers, hot dogs, bbq flavored kettle chips, and this Asian ramen salad my mom made. We also had these raspberry tart-like-almost short bread cookies from Costco. They are a good sized cookie and so yummy; it was my first time having them.
We were going to go to the “drive in” fireworks, I think that is what they are calling them this year because of Covid, but we were feeling tired. My mom just had one hand/wrist surgery this past Tuesday to help fix her carpal tunnel and I’m not sure about me haha! I sometimes always feel tired, even though I get 8 hours or more of sleep. But the fireworks were only going to be 6 minutes long this year, so I decided to go home and be with my rabbits in case people would shoot fireworks off illegally and scare them. Well, it is illegal where I live anyways.
But anyways, today was making me think, I always have bad luck on holidays. Last year on the 4th of July, we were visiting my Grandma on the west side of the state we live in. She lives in a rest home type place. We had a great visit and everything, but since we were from out of town and mostly with my grandma, we didn’t watch fireworks in person. We watched them on TV. Derrick from DWTS (just spaced his last name) and Ciara hosted last year and wow, I do not know what happened to her voice, but she does not sound good live. Watching fireworks on TV, does not have the same effect for me as they do in person.
The 4th of July in 2018 was pretty good. We did get to watch fireworks in person, but it was the first 4th without my dad, so that was weird too. Then the 4th of July in 2017, I was supposed to go see fireworks with the dude I was dating at the time and then, of course, he flaked out last minute, so I ended up watching them from my dad’s hospital room, which was actually a great view since the hospital he was in was right downtown (but was such a odd juxtaposition because my dad was really sick at the time with pancreatic cancer), so that 4th of July was kind of a bummer.
I do not have bad luck only around the 4th of July. It follows me to different holidays too. Let’s see, most recently, this last November in 2019, my ex-boyfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks before Thanksgiving. I mean, it could have been worse haha! It wasn’t on Thanksgiving, luckily. But it made me sad because I was looking forward to spending the holiday season, like through Christmas and New Years, as part of a couple. It was a definite disappointment at the time.
Another year on Thanksgiving, in 2016 I believe it was, my rabbit Ruthy was very sick. I didn’t realize it at first because I was a new rabbit owner. I had only had her for 9 months at that time. Rabbits have very sensitive stomachs and GI tracts like if not caught in time it can cause death. I had accidentally been feeding my baby Ruth too many pellets without realizing it. Anyways, by the time I realized I needed to take her into the vet, it was like 5 pm on Thanksgiving night and of course I didn’t have a vet for her at the time. Then of course, it was so hard finding her one, which I did not expect, because in the vet community she is considered an “exotic” which basically means like not every vet knows how to deal with rabbits. It totally baffled me because, in my mind, a rabbit is kind of a farm animal and pretty basic animal, but nope. Apparently not all vets know how to take care of them or learn that kind of skill in vet school, so it was a whole ordeal of calling around and then even finding some place open last minute because it was about to be a holiday weekend. It was so stressful. I finally found a place after like 1.5 hours in of calling, but it was the worst luck to have had happened on a holiday! Oh and my Ruthy lived and got healthy again. I learned how to feed her properly and the warning signs to watch out for if she got sick again.
My dad died two days before my birthday in 2017. That was pretty bad luck if you ask me. I was turning my favorite number too, 27. Since it was my favorite number, I thought I was going to have the “best year ever.” It was not how I expected to start off that year and it was not my best year ever, as you could have guessed. It was also weird because my grandpa (my dad’s dad) had died when my dad was 27 too, so it was eerie some of the same things that happened to my dad that happened to me. Like I was literally in my dad’s shoes at the same age he was. I never thought my dad would die so young at 55, but that is a whole other story!
What else?? Oh, one year, it was before Thanksgiving too. I think I was in my early 20s. I had 6 cavities at once. I used to eat a lot of sour patch kids candy haha!, but I brushed my teeth all the time too so it was weird. So I had to get these cavities drilled and I didn’t have time (or so I thought) to split it into 2 appointments. This was back when I went to college full time, worked a part time job, had lots of homework, and everything else in between. So, I was like, just drill these all at once; ain’t nobody got time for that. But I didn’t realize how long 6 cavities actually takes to drill. It took 3 hours and they never did any breaks, so my mouth was stretched wide open for that long. Looking back, they should have had me take breaks, but it totally screwed up my jaw for years after!! It was absolutely terrible. I had this done a couple days before Thanksgiving oddly enough and, yeah, I want to say the night before Thanksgiving, which is one of my FAVORITE holidays, I experienced the worst pain in my jaw that would radiate like up to my head area. I could not sleep and it was like this whole thing. I went to the ER and I don’t think they could prescribe me anything at the time or they may have prescribed me hydrocodone, but I can’t remember now. It was funny because the ER doctor told me, “I had the nicest teeth he’s seen come through here.” Like I guess he meant, he’s seen some rough people who don’t have all their teeth. They told me they thought I had trigeminal neuralgia which is basically excruciating jaw pain. So I had to call my dentist last minute the next day on like the emergency line and wait for him to call me back, I was exhausted from not sleeping, and then I was worried I couldn’t even eat the good food, so it was this whole thing all because I had decided to get 6 cavities drilled at once. I think I was feeling a little better last minute, after getting the right medicine or it just randomly stopped hurting, and was able to eat a little. But this issue effected my jaw, like I said, for years after. I’m so lucky it hasn’t flared up in a good 4 years, maybe its been. But yeah, then I know it did flare up randomly on another holiday, it was either Memorial Day or another 4th of July, because I remember wearing a stars and stripes kind of shirt. But yeah, it was a bad flare up. Ibuprofen didn’t work or the hydrocodone. I didn’t sleep at all that night. We went to urgent care the next day, but they couldn’t even prescribe me anything, so I can’t remember what all happened or what pain medicine helped. I do remember one year they gave me some sleeping pills and that just like helped me sleep through the pain, I guess. I am really lucky, I have not had these issues since about 2014 though! I can’t even describe how painful it was.
Also, I remember on the day I was graduating from high school and like getting ready to take pictures with my family, we got a knock on the front door and it was a religious group like wanting to talk to us about their religion. I was in my graduation gown and everything. I was like, um we don’t really have time to talk right now, sorry. Awkward haha!
One last thing that happened recently, not really around a holiday per se, but it was around like a milestone in my life. I had recently paid off my car in early October 2019 and then literally the next day, or it might have been a week later, I get into this minor fender bender, or what I thought was minor. No one was hurt, it hardly looked like my front end had any damage, and my car was driving normally too. Well basically all the damage ended up being internally, so they totaled my car! I was devastated. I had just paid off this car and this happened! It was still in great shape and only had about 76,000 miles on it. Womp, womp. I loved that car so much. It was a black 2013 Mazda3. It was my first real nice car. I am thankful I was ok, but so bummed. I was not ready to give up that car! It was my first car accident too. Like what, how does that even happen?!?
So yeah, I have some bad luck around holidays or special moments. I don’t know if it means anything or it is just life throwing me a curve ball. It makes me laugh looking back at some of those times though. Some were straight up rough though.
Let’s hope the next 4th of July is better! I feel like collectively it is probably a little different for everyone this year because of Covid, so I just kind of shrugged today’s last minute pitfalls off after remembering I’m still healthy and so is my family. It could have been a lot worse.
Thanks for reading!